I met a school friend after many years. But the girl, popularly known as Miss Rude of school days, appeared to be very vivacious and gladsome. When I asked the secret of that broad sunshine smile, the unexpected reply was, "I am in love". With my eyebrows raised, the first word I could utter was "WOW!!" Smiling again, she explained to me the way things happened. After learning that she had met the guy a day before at a friend's party and was now deeply in love with him, I suddenly broke into laughter. I know it might have been thought as strange and awkward on my part, but I could not control my feelings at the moment. They did not even talk to each other and had fallen in love just at the first sight...."How could one fall in love at first sight?" was the very first question that came to my mind.
Many of us often witness people, who confuse love with 'Infatuation' (just crush or attraction at first sight). But they don't realise that there is a very thin line difference between the two. I see no reason to fall in love without even knowing a person. Love is an eternal feeling, a phenomenon that takes place when one gets acquainted with the mind, heart and soul of the other. When the thoughts rising inside one can be read by another and the decision taken by one is understood, appreciated and respected by another. It is not about disputing over the kind of path to be followed, but is walking together on the same path, holding each other's hands.
Now the question is "can all these feelings originate by merely a glimpse or by just exchanging a few words?" The answer is "No" indeed. Love is a process that can take some days, months or even some years to pave its way into the hearts of those involved. It is true, though, a person can feel quite inclined or attracted towards another owing to some physical qualities. But that can be termed as infatuation, crush or sometimes something that could later be transformed into the so called Love. What a youngster today call as 'Love at first sight' might later translate into 'Fight at first sight', if the chosen person is not compatible enough to spend the entire life with. Though by putting in some efforts and a positive attitude, one can really convert this infatuation into "Love of the lifetime"....
The very fact to be kept in mind is that each person comes from a different background and has undergone an unlike upbringing. So familiarizing yourself with the family, social and personal background of the person can help you getting into his/her mind and heart. Besides, if you really like a person, speak your heart out in front of him/her. This would include everything significant in you life, ranging from your school life, hobbies to your 'past relationships' and future plans. Also try to find out the vision and attitude of the person towards 'Life' and 'Love'. Last but not the least, 'Give yourself time' before directly jumping onto the conclusion... Finally he/she will either emerge out to be the perfect one for you, or else there is someone, somewhere, still waiting for your love.
So the next time you check someone out, my tips would surely help you to convert this illusion, called the 'Love at first sight' into a Reality..
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